Retirement: How to get back into life

by Joyce Greenlee
(Missouri)

Well, I really went on disability a few years ago, but my retirement actually started on January 18th this year.

My husband passed away 3 years ago and my 52 year old son got a divorce. So, my son, my autistic grandson and I moved in together.

Then on January 18th I decided to move into an apartment by myself. So, here I am, retired, first time I have been alone, not knowing what to do with myself. Oh, I might add, no vehicle either.

Not to say I am unhappy, because I am not. My husband was sick a long time before he passed away, and we didn't have much social life.

I'm just trying to figure out how you get back into life.

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Get back into life
by: Elizabeth/Spokane

Hello there. I have been retired since 2011.

I rejoined a spiritual center and began volunteering with the nursery children. That was one way. I looked into online classes of things that caught my interest. I really enjoy listening to podcasts that give a different perspective than the mainstream tv news outlet.

After 20 years since I have had a real relationship, I am putting myself out there to see if I can find someone with whom I could love and be loved by - just a little, not full out yet.

Just last week I listened to a free course about Qigong and signed up. It is a great exercise program that combines physical with spiritual practice.

Go for it - you are free to do whatever.
Senior Center - Volunteer - Take Classes
by: Michael - Warm and Sunny Venice Florida

Joyce - your story reminded me of when I was out on my own for the first time after college. I had a new job in a new town and knew no one. I became friends with people my age in the area and volunteered for a crisis intervention hotline.

Start by figuring out how you will get around. Are you dependent on your son for transit or is there a bus line near you? Can you buy your own car?

Next, find out if there is a local senior center in your area. Many offer activities that will help you broaden your horizons and give you a chance to meet new people.

Volunteer. Your local library, church, soup kitchen, etc. And, most of all, try to find something that will get you out of the house a few days a week in order to come in contact with other people.

I don't know the extent of your disability. If a part-time job is a possibility, many schools are always looking for substitute teachers and teachers' aides.

And, remember to exercise - join the local YMCA/YWCA where there are also classes.

Stay in touch with family too and have meals with them a few times a week.
Some thoughts
by: Sandy

Hi, Joyce - I am sorry to hear about your husband. You must miss him.

As for starting over, keep in mind that this is a tough time for that, given Covid. So I would not judge the present state as the way it will be forever.

What about joining a meetup - there are so many. You could also make a list of all the things you want to do and have never had a chance. Even though you don't have transportation, are you on a bus route? Are you comfortable with Uber? This would allow you to attend any in-person events.

By the way, many meetups are still meeting by zoom. It is a great way to meet people remotely.

I hope you find your place and something which makes you feel satisfied and connected.

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