The Book "I'm Dead, Now What?"

by D
(Douglas Ma)

After much thought about what would happen after I passed, I decided to buy this book at Amazon.

I live alone (widowed) and have no children. I thought that it would make it easier for my heirs to find all of my personal information and get on with their own lives.

No one knows my bank acct#, investments, business affairs, passwords and wishes. (If I told them about it, they wouldn't want to hear it)...you know how that goes.

Please check out this book on Amazon. Keep it in a secure place.

Tell your trusted executors about it's location. They will love you for it.

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The Book, "I'm Dead, Now What?"
by: Diane

Wendy,

I know how your friend's husband feels. It took a good year to straighten out and gathering paperwork after my husband died.

I knew all of his passwords. Even then I had a LOT to learn about investments (I decided to hire a financial adviser for that).

The death of a spouse is the most stressful event that you ever go through. Then, on top of that, the lawyers, documents, I could go on and on....
Good planning
by: Laura in Vermont

I have a similar book from Amazon, the "Peace of Mind Planner," to help organize our papers for whomever has to deal with them. I also got a fireproof file safe to put the papers in, arranged as per the book so they're easy to find. This way, if both of us are gone, my brother or his will be able to figure out what to do with what's left.

My mother-in-law died after Christmas 2016 and my husband got to be her executor. She did a lot of good planning but didn't organize her paperwork so a huge search of her house was mounted and little by little the papers he needed turned up. That prompted me to buy the book. I would recommend it to anyone.
Me too
by: Mary Fla.

I'm in the same boat as you..widowed and no children. I have friends, but I have no one I completely trust with all my passwords, bank acct info etc.

I plan on leaving most of my meager money to charities, which I have designated. But who to inform them?

I know I need to get a lawyer to handle some of this, but how will they even know I have died.

I will check out this book and I have prepaid my funeral, and one friend will handle that, but not other things. I don't trust her fully and she's older.
A single diary on your desk is the best
by: Retd. Prof. Durgesh KUmar Sruivastava, C3 Janakpuri, New Delhi-110058 fIndia

When people of the Hindu faith pass away, it is a social custom in India to hold a death ritual after four or ten or 13 or 17 days. This ritual has many alternative names .... Kirya, Terabvin etc.

People gathr on the appointed day at the appointed time in the hall of a religious place where the photo of the deceased is placed on a pedestal. Often, the family has no photo or has a joint photo or group photo.

So, what I have done is that I have got a big sized color photo of myself made and framed and hung it in my room. Just behind this photo, I have hidden copies of my I.D. proof, age proof, residence proof etc. I have also kept there a small sheet of paper carrying all personal info about me, so that the gathering of mourners can be informed about the person they are praying for.

One can keep a diary permanently on the desk, near the phone. Relevant information like bank account nos, email account IDs and paswords, behicle records, brief details of property owned, important phone nos. can be entered in this diary. Bills paid and bills unpaid can also be recorded. Duplicate car and house keys can also be kept in the desk drawer. List of investments can also me made in this diary.

When the desk owner dies, a living relative can take charge of the diary and the desk. The WILL should not be kept on the desk. It should be with your lawyer.

When the bank locker of an elderly relative was opened after his death, they found that each item of jewelry had been individually labeled with the name of the person who was to receive it as gift.

Each case is unique and different. But you must prepare in advance for the eventuality of sudden death.

You are welcome to give your own suggestions.
Lost a friend
by: Wendy, www.retirement-online.com

I just lost a friend who had cancer for three years. We met monthly for business chats over lunch as we both owned websites.

We often talked about exchanging info -- just in case. I needed hers, specifically... and yet, denial, I think, set in and we never exchanged that very important data.

Now, Terri has passed on. I am helping her husband find passwords, where payments go, how to send out orders and more. He is beyond himself with so much more to do. For me it's the least I can do for my friend.

WHY OH WHY didn't I insist on getting her website info? *I* of all people KNOW better... and yet didn't want to tred in her personal website, her baby.

WHY didn't she finally give it to me early July when she went into hospice and I visited twice? We laughed over memories, cried over the future -- and yet I never got the info I needed to carry on for her.

She only passed away yesterday, but I've struggled all week because she was no longer able to think correctly to help me.

Please, family or not, do what you need to do to assure people get things you want them to get.

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